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I am having teeth out soon. I think i am going to be bullied by people how can i make no bullying happen or stopped?

Dr Clip says:

I am sorry to hear that you are worried about being bullied. Has it happened to you before? Do you have an idea about who might be going to bully you?

When something is going to change about how we look we expect everyone to notice it and for it to be a big thing to them like it is for us.

This might turn out to be be true and people might notice. Usually they don't notice or if they do notice they quickly forget.

What makes them more likely to notice is if we may it a big deal by trying to hide the change. In your case if you try to hide the space left in your gum you will make people realize that you are bothered about it. Peoplle usually bully other people if they know it will hurt their feelings. It's really hard to do, but if you can try to look as if having missing teeth doesn't bother you at all. Try and laugh along with them. If they realize they are not hurting your feelings they will start to bully someone else.

I would really like to help you sort this out. Have you ever seen a psychologist who works with the cleft team? They can give you an appointment to talk about this and try to help you with it. If you get your parents or carers to call the cleft team they should be able to set this up for you. You could mention it to your dentist too and they could try to sort an appointment out for you.

Try looking at these websites for other ideas on what you can do:

 

http://www.bullying.co.uk

 

 

 

http://www.kidscape.org.uk  

 

 

I hope this helps. Let me know if it does and if not I can see if I have any other ideas.